Don’t tell me

It’s easy to tell others and give them advice, our ego likes the feeling of importance, especially when we feel we know better or do something better than the other person. It gives us a feeling of superiority and that’s what the ego loves.

It is far harder to be the example and take our own advice, we then have a raft of internal excuses as why it wouldn’t work for us or there are other factors to take into account, so is is ‘just not that simple’.

The thing is, it is always better to be an example for others to follow, if they choose, than it is to tell others what they ‘should’ do. At the end of the day, while some experiences are similar, we are all on our own unique journey, we are all different, and what might work for us, isn’t necessarily what might work for another.

If someone ask directly for our advice, then we can give them our view, however, most people want support, empathy, understanding and someone to listen to them, not to be told.

Forget about the cracks

Perfect can never be, as in order for it to be so would mean the end of everything.

Once perfection is reached, it can always be improved upon, so only ending everything would that level of ‘perfect’ remain. Otherwise, perfection is a momentary and subjective thing.

In order for anything to be it has to have the opposite, the Yin and Yang, to exist. So for there to be perfect there has to be imperfection.

The thing is, perfect does not matter. It is just a way of our mind creating an excuse for not doing something, we can hide behind perfection not doing something to avoid being judged as to our perfection. Equally, imperfection does not matter either, it is only a tool of judging.

Let go of perfect or imperfect and enjoy just doing, just living, just being. Forget about the cracks.