Better to be understood than right

When we respect and empathise with people who share a different viewpoint from us, we massively increase the opportunity for dialogue and discussion.

When we fear, judge and shame others for their views, we only create more division.

After all, opinions are just opinions, because we have them, it does not make them right or, in fact, wrong. They are neither, they are our set of temporary mental forms based on our level of consciousness and experiences at that moment in time.

Sadly, when we allow our ego to get attached to our viewpoint, then there is always the fight ‘to death’ approach to defend them at all costs. Then others will simply reflect that and no dialogue occurs only hatred.

When we are free from attachment, at peace within regarding differing views, then we can air ours without any need to be right. Strangely, others then mirror our light and let go of their attachment too. This is how human souls can communicate without fear and with love instead. It’s sharing our light and peaceful intention that creates a chance for discussion.

If we want to be heard we have to listen and understand others first and then let go of our need to be right. Better to be understood, than right.

Dialogue not monologue

The challenge with only one narrative being voiced and seen as acceptable is that there is no balance, there is no respectful intellectual debate that would test the narrative being presented. So it is one-sided and as time passes it becomes dictatorial.

This is especially of concern when the one voice is one of authority that has been seen as a trusted source.

We live increasingly in a world of homogenisation and a single narrative where the opposing one is ridiculed and presented as ‘anti’ or ‘looney’.

If we want to maintain a healthy society there needs to respectful discussion of views of all, a dialogue not a monologue.