Better to be understood than right

When we respect and empathise with people who share a different viewpoint from us, we massively increase the opportunity for dialogue and discussion.

When we fear, judge and shame others for their views, we only create more division.

After all, opinions are just opinions, because we have them, it does not make them right or, in fact, wrong. They are neither, they are our set of temporary mental forms based on our level of consciousness and experiences at that moment in time.

Sadly, when we allow our ego to get attached to our viewpoint, then there is always the fight ‘to death’ approach to defend them at all costs. Then others will simply reflect that and no dialogue occurs only hatred.

When we are free from attachment, at peace within regarding differing views, then we can air ours without any need to be right. Strangely, others then mirror our light and let go of their attachment too. This is how human souls can communicate without fear and with love instead. It’s sharing our light and peaceful intention that creates a chance for discussion.

If we want to be heard we have to listen and understand others first and then let go of our need to be right. Better to be understood, than right.

Being wrong

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Being wrong is a brave thing to admit to.

It takes courage.

Most of us have grown up in the ‘black and white’ world of being right is a win and being wrong is for losers.

It is almost like a badge of honour to win an argument, it is how our worthiness can be measured. It’s often how people feel superior to others.

To admit that you were wrong is hugely liberating, as you release the massive pressure attached to always having to be right in order to feel worthy.

It’s simply a question of unlearning in order to be free.