Tag: vulnerability

Why don’t they learn?

Posted on by philipdodson

This is something that observers of other people say. They pass judgement on others mistakes and question ‘why don’t they learn?’. Yet often it is a judgement of themselves.

Learning isn’t that simple. Firstly, we assume that others are aware and more importantly we are judging others behaviour as wrong or a mistake, but only through our filter of right and wrong, good or bad. What do they need to learn for us to be content?

The other thing about learning is it takes time, we have to break habits, we have to feel enough pain to change, we have to learn vulnerability, we have to learn to detach ourselves from defending our way of doing things. These changes do not happen overnight and it requires patience, sacrifice, and being brave.

Learning and change go hand in hand, they are personal and it comes from within, not from pressure from others.

Consciousness and vulnerability

Posted on by philipdodson

I’m a huge Brene Brown fan, I love her work on shame, vulnerability, showing up and living a wholehearted life. I have just watched her Netflix show, if you get a chance then well worth an hour and have a tissue or two at the ready, as vulnerability is tough but worth it.

I have written many blogs on the subject around bravery, vulnerability and how showing up requires them both. Vulnerability is the opposite of weakness. Watching Brene today, I realised that there is one other factor to vulnerability, it is only possible if, like everything we do, we do it when we are conscious and in this present moment. We cannot be vulnerable in the past or in the future, we have to always be it now.

Otherwise, the moment you go into the mind, the mind will sabotage and put up the vulnerability shields to protect its ego. It will do everything to stop us exposing the real us.

Our inner spiritual essence is vulnerable, loving, and full of joy, the only way to show up is to be in the moment and conscious, to be authentically us. Our light that we show to others is there because we stayed conscious and showed up, we were willing to be vulnerable.