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There is always something wrong

Posted on by philipdodson

There is always something wrong if you look for it. Especially if this is the filter that your mind uses.

Looking for something wrong yields wrong-doing always and that wrong enables our mind to react, complain, it allows our ego to be justified. It makes us feel superior, that is what the ego needs in its vulnerable state.

Yet, the pointing out or reacting to things that are wrong, and that is ‘wrong’ only in our minds, doesn’t make anyone else feel good. Interestingly though, the person who suffers most is the person who seeks the wrong-doing and does the pointing out, as they are the ones that are doing the judging. A judgement of others is, in fact, a judgement of ourselves.

It is a reflection of our own discontentment that leads us to manifest that in criticism of other people’s behaviour, with the hope, that catching others misdemeanours or mistakes somehow will elevate us above them and brings salvation to us.

The insecurity of the ego leads to continued pain and suffering, do not look for right or wrong in ourselves or others, accept them and ourselves for what we are and do not form opinions or judgements. This way there is peace within and within our relationships with others.

The relaxation/guilt circle

Posted on by philipdodson

Then, when we are wanting to relax, we feel guilty about the things we haven’t yet completed or need to be done. Also, in the industrialised world, it is seen as bad not to be constantly busy.

Therefore, relaxation time is far from that, it is stressful and time where we make ourselves feel bad.

When we are wanting to work, to do things, to take action, we feel resentful because when we were supposed to be relaxing in the evening or the weekend, we didn’t, we felt guilty. Therefore, we didn’t get time to chill and now work seems like a chore.

So, we don’t do the work and when it is time to relax, guess what? Yep, the same circle repeats itself guilt – resentment – guilt – resentment and so on.

To break it, we need to do one thing, create a time when work ends, and begins again, a shutdown. During the shutdown, we switch off work, phones, email, text, and so on.

If you are doing a job that is so important that you can not switch off for 8-12 hours a day, then change it, for the rest of us, there is nothing so earth-shatteringly important that it can not wait a few hours.

This breaks the circle of guilt followed by resentment. We properly relax and therefore we are fully supercharged to do our work, we get more work done and soon we have more time to relax.