Manipulations

When expectation of something in return is the motivator of our kindness, then it isn’t kindness, it’s manipulation. Some manipulation is relatively harmless, well so it seems on the surface, and other is much more unkind.

If we act from our soul and true essence and perform an act of kindness simply because it brings us joy and where there is no expectation from the mind, then it brings us pure joy and it places no burden on the other person.

Manipulation from the mildest to the most extreme forms is damaging to the recipient and the manipulator and comes from our ego and from our fears. We believe that we need to be seen to be in control, it’s all about the inner self image and how we think we are perceived.

If we allows others to be as they are and if we are willing to accept everything as it is, then there is no need to want to control others and there is no need to create an image by acts of ‘kindness’ that are laced with burden.

Kindness is an act of love from the heart and soul.

Quitters

Knowing when to ‘quit’ or stop is a challenge.

We override our instincts, especially when the body is telling us, there is an ‘I’m not a quitter’ attitude that comes from our egoic mind that forces us to continue, even if it is causing us pain.

Equally, the soul is often crying out to stop an emotional or mental pain and suffering, but the mind sabotages that feeling with attachment to things and again something to prove to others.

The best solution is to simply listen and be in tune with our feelings from our very essence and not be attached to our mind and ego, stopping or quitting is easy then, just stop. That’s what we feel.

Feelings are overlooked by the ego and this only brings suffering mental and then physical too.

Quitting is a mental concept of the human mind, doing what we feel is following our soul.