Under pressure

We are all under a huge constant pressure to be amazing, perfect, super human, great at everything, constantly doing, earning more, buying more, bigger, better…we need to be a doer, a go-getter…

We are all the same, we are probably good at one or two things, no human can be great at everything. To be good at anything takes time, practice, commitment and pain, it’s not something that you fast track from reading a ‘how to be a winner at everything’ book.

The things we really value are not related to achieving, money or stuff. They are things like people, adventures, having a laugh and so on.

It’s also not about what others are doing and measuring ourselves against them. We need to set our metrics by our own personal values and move thing else.

Once we accept we’re ordinary, like everyone else on the planet then we are no longer under pressure and life is so much better.

No one does well under pressure despite the myth of such fed to us by the machine that keeps us slaves to meaningless deadlines. Keep running round and round the hamster wheel.

From this place of peace and acceptance we can then focus on the things that matter and live a purposeful life getting even better at one or two things we love doing.

Our worth is not determined by a meaningless pursuit of happiness that only comes when we reach this nirvana of being fucking great at everything. We never reach it and who hell wants to?

Instruction manual

We as humans are not delivered by Amazon, well not yet, in a box with an instruction manual.

Life is not preset, where everything works perfectly the moment we are unboxed and plugged in. It is not going go without its challenges and even if there was an instruction manual, we’d ignore it or wouldn’t even read it.

The beauty of life is we create our own manual by living, experimenting, testing, trying, and learning as we go, it is not a finished manual, it’s a thing that evolves if we allow it to. We have everything we need to live the life that we desire.

We have to really want what we want and be brave enough to allow ourselves to create the life we want.

We also have to forget the idea that there is perfect path laid out in some instructions or that others can provide us with the magic answers. The answer we have already, we just need to listen, learn and act.