When expectation of something in return is the motivator of our kindness, then it isn’t kindness, it’s manipulation. Some manipulation is relatively harmless, well so it seems on the surface, and other is much more unkind.

If we act from our soul and true essence and perform an act of kindness simply because it brings us joy and where there is no expectation from the mind, then it brings us pure joy and it places no burden on the other person.

Manipulation from the mildest to the most extreme forms is damaging to the recipient and the manipulator and comes from our ego and from our fears. We believe that we need to be seen to be in control, it’s all about the inner self image and how we think we are perceived.

If we allows others to be as they are and if we are willing to accept everything as it is, then there is no need to want to control others and there is no need to create an image by acts of ‘kindness’ that are laced with burden.

Kindness is an act of love from the heart and soul.



Authentic, what does this mean? Well, the dictionary definition is – not being false, being genuine, being real.

It’s weird then, that we need to be told to be authentic really. It has become a real buzz word in this brave new world of the start-ups and entrepreneurship (more buzz words). We often hear ‘experts’/’guru’s’/’advisors’/’mentors’ saying ‘be authentic’.

But why wouldn’t you be authentic? Does this imply that before that people were all liars, cheats, untrustworthy and generally manipulative?

Well in varying degrees yes. Perhaps liars or cheats is harsh, although there have been a few to be honest.

The old school mentality is one of manipulation, either of the employee, the customer, the voter, the pupil and so on. We live in a world full of manipulations.

The real successes stories however, are always about the genuine, real and authentic. They never had to be told to be that way, as that’s how they have always been and always will be.

So be yourself always and don’t succumb to the manipulative world that surrounds us, be different and think different.