Tag: Kind

What is being kind?

Posted on by philipdodson

We all like to think we are kind.

Let’s ask ourselves a few simple questions.

If we open a door for someone are we upset if they don’t say thank you? If we give someone a gift are we disappointed if they don’t reciprocate? If we compliment someone are we upset if they don’t give us one back?

If we are answering ‘yes’ then that’s not kindness, more manipulation.

Kindness has nothing attached and we are doing to bring ourselves inner joy. We don’t need reward or recognition. If we seek recognition then it is ego.

Be and be kind because we can and it brings joy to ourselves and others without obligations or burdens.

Kindness is from the heart with no strings, anything else has an agenda and comes from the mind.

Be honest

Posted on by philipdodson

When we are honest in our relationships we stop the other person from having to wonder. When we withhold the truth and we conceal our true feelings and thoughts, the other person will sense something and because they do not know the truth, they will fill in the blanks. Our mind has to have the answer, the beginning, middle and end. When it does not, it fills in the blank and always in a bad way.

If we share our truth with others we free them from the suffering of not knowing and it enables us to truly connect in a very deep way that is not possible when we put up our shields to hide the truth from others.

Being honest with others stops us either building up and resenting others, which usually leads to an explosive outburst and hurt for all, or we say nothing and suffer because we did not speak our truth and we did not respect ourselves.

The only ingredients that we must not leave out ever from speaking our truth are kindness and empathy towards the recipient of our truth. If we leave them out we will only hurt and damage our relationships.