It’s a lonely road

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If it was easy creating great things, we’d all be at it everyday, and then nothing would be created that was worthwhile or unique. Creating something different, unique, and new, takes time, takes effort, bravery and imagination.

It takes patience, through trial and error, through learning lessons and improving what you create next. The key though is to keep creating, keep sharing and keep connecting with others.

This initial phase of standing out, not fitting in, challenging the status quo, and challenging yourself, is the hardest part. It is a lonely place being different, it often means being ‘unfriended’, ‘unfollowed’ or simply ignored (OMG the terror, surely I am going to die).

The first thing that has to drive us to create, is pure and simply for ourselves, for our own sense of fulfilment and purpose. We have to follow our own why, our own values and be 100% ourselves in order to create the very best stuff. We also have to accept vulnerability and we have to learn courage.

Often though that takes us so far out of our safety zones that it is too scary to start. Even once you have started, the temptation is to row back to shore, especially as your peers are beckoning you back to ‘safety’.

As you drift further and further from shore, the journey gets very lonely. You start to question, you start to think about defeat, the chimp inside us is going mad with the stress you are putting him or her under.

The road to creating your very best, truly you, is a lonely road.

But the only way to be truly you, to be truly happy is to make that initial lonely journey to a better place. It starts with a choice to change, followed by being prepared to take that lonely road.

Eventually though you find your tribe, you find your place, and your creations get shared with the right audience that you have chosen.

Share your creations

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Staring at a blank sheet of paper and then starting to type, I wonder where this blog will go?

The more I think about what I want to write each day, the harder it becomes.

I know that if I analyse every sentence and every thought, then I will eventually talk myself out of writing it or I will keep editing it. The voice in the head will be saying ‘what if no one likes it?’ and ‘will that offend someone?’ or ‘does anyone care?’. Fear of what the non-believers will say.

The fact is I do my writing about things that matter to me. About the things I care about. I am not writing for others, I am writing for me.

So I have now got to the point of not caring who else reads them. I am obviously delighted if people enjoy reading them, however, I love writing them, it makes me feel happy and that is why I do this.

The key thing is to find the right people to connect with in life and then share your work with them. If you never share what you create, then you have not created anything.

If some do not like it, that is of no relevance, you may have shared it with the wrong audience, they might be wrong, who knows, who cares. There is very little right or wrong in life.

The most important thing to do is to share your creations and never fear what others will think. This is my creation and I am happy with it.