We do not know how to accept kindness.
We feel have to reciprocate.
We expect a burden.
So we resist.
We think there’s a catch.
Or we feel beholden to the kind person.
True kindness is always without expectations and comes from our soul, from our true essence and we do it because it brings us joy not for a return.
However, we are conditioned into the ‘one good turn deserves another mentality’ and therefore, there is much false kindness, that is really manipulating others as there are conditions and expectations.
This is why we have become uncomfortable with kindness.
The simple way to change this is by example, to only offer unconditional kindness from the heart, where it is our joy that is the focus and not getting something.
Philip Dodson 