Whatever happens, happens.
The moment we realise that something has occurred, it already has, it’s in the past.
Therefore, we can not change it.
However, a great deal of energy is often spent on not liking what has happened, and deny it or even wanting a different outcome to occur.
Once we reach a point of accepting everything as it is, then we can take all the emotions and mind activity out of trying to change or deny it. This then allows us to take action, if needed, from a place of calm and acceptance within.
Our mind, which is an amazing tool, is then free for us to use to look at solutions now.
The other thing is to not them go into future projections as to what may occur as a result of a happening. Just stay present, and the mind will be silent. We have no way of knowing what might occur as a result of something, so again best to not think about it and remain at peace within.
The essence of all things is to use the mind as a tool and not allow the mind to control us with its thoughts of past and future.
Sometimes…we just need to change the routine, do a different route to work, have a different tea in the morning, change the washing powder, not do our exercises, have a slice of cake instead of an apple…whatever it is, we need a break some days.
Habits and discipline are all well and good, but we can become stale and lacking in new things. It is often the small things that matter much more than the so-called ‘bigger’ things. That’s why a couple of small changes regularly here and there can help us to keep our momentum on life going without the need to come to a crashing halt because we have burnt out. Small steps taken often add up to the bigger thing, but not always on the same path and not without a break.
Some days it’s also good just to say ‘fuck it’ and get back in bed. The mind says ‘that’s terrible, you must get up, there are things to do’ and then we feel guilty about being in bed and don’t get the benefit of switching off. Don’t feel guilt, some days it’s good to do nothing and not even think about it.
OK, back to bed.