Tag: let go

We control one thing

Posted on by philipdodson

We control one thing in life…our own journey.

Everything else is outside our control and any attempt to control someone or something else is a futility.

No one likes to be controlled by others and when we attempt it, it is simply manipulation.

We spend endless energy on attempting to control things that we cannot and the resulting suffering for ourselves and the people we try to control is a big part of the suffering in the world.

If we accept everything as it is, if we accept that we can only control our own life and if we let go of the expectation of doing so with something or someone and the manipulation we have to construct to do so, then peace comes within us and for the others that we are trying to control.

Events, the weather, actions of others, thoughts of others, others opinions of us, governments, banks, neighbours, partners, wife/husband/son/daughter…the list can go on and on, are not things that we can alter, so it’s best to just let it go, stop resisting it, stop fighting it and just be and let others be.

Once we get to this stage, we then have so much more energy and space within to concentrate on our own journey, happiness and growth. Our life is our responsibility and other people’s journeys are theirs.

Shutdown

Posted on by philipdodson

When we have a period where we are lacking energy or enthusiasm for something, rather than fight it, embrace it.

It is a sign to take a break, do something different or actually do nothing.

The challenge comes when we resist it and fight our own body. That only ends up one way, not being well physically and mentally. We get stuck in a downward spiral of resistance and fighting that leads to becoming more exhausted and on edge.

Our conditioning says ‘soldier on’, ‘keep going’ and ‘don’t give up’…all these are ‘macho’ themes of the ego.

We all need to pause, stop for a while, refresh and take care of ourselves and as soon as we feel it, just go with it, relax and shutdown. While we are relaxing, newness comes and we can then take on fresh opportunities without feeling run down and exhausted. Our light from within shines again.