Keeping change going is tough

The road to change is a long one and a challenging one at times.

The challenge is, you have to deal with realisations that the person you once were, or still sometimes are, wasn’t always the person that you are proud of. Made choices, that you now see as bad ones.

On the road to change, you have to accept that you were wrong in the past. It takes courage to accept that you were wrong or your choices were bad.

The easy route is to carry on believing that it’s others who were wrong, that you do not need to change.

We are all human, so there is no judgement if we slip occasionally, if we are not perfect. The thing is, if we extend that kindness to ourselves, which we could choose to do, we could also choose to extend that kindness to others, as they are human too.

Echo chambers


In our echo chamber.

The ‘ignorant’ are in theirs.

In their echo chamber, they see us as ignorant.

Ignorance isn’t the problem. A different view is not ignorance.

Righteousness is a curse that leads to nothing but hatred, blinkered views and a stubborn resistance to listen, for a fear that we could be toppled from our thrown of being so fucking right and smug.

Leave your chamber, listen to people you believe are ignorant. Remove your own blinkers for a moment, listen without evaluating, the highest form of intelligence and something that we all struggle to master as we never had a single lesson at school, or home, or work, that taught us this skill.

Most of us are so busy trying to convert people and talk about everything from our perspective.

Come together, be patient, try to walk in a while in their shoes.

Hating, evaluating and anger has yet to work.

I know this from first-hand experience, where I grew up in a judgmental environment, with us or against us, black or white, no shades of grey.

We could droo being right and embrace differences, however opposite they are to you. It’s hard. 

After all, it’s just a view. It’s not about being right, it’s about empathy, understanding and civil debate to focus on a future even better outcome that perhaps neither echo chambers could imagine on their own. 

Alternatively, we can close the door on our echo chamber and destroy ourselves slowly with incandescent hate, anger, frustration and blind evaluation without even listening of the ‘ignorant’.

When we judge others, we are actually saying more about our own behaviour, struggles, and hang-ups than the people we judge.