Not living the life I want…

Is something I’ve said to myself many times and I am sure many others have.

However, if we stopped to analyse now and stopped thinking about this future life that never actually arrives, we’d realise that we are living a far better life than we thought.

I did this very thing this morning while chatting with my mate on our weekly catch-up/accountability call. We both had to admit that life now was pretty damn good. If we allowed ourselves to look at what we actually have, instead of beating ourselves up about all the things we don’t have, that would somehow magically make our lives more like the one we’re always imagining and hoping will get one day in the future, then we’d live a much more relaxed and contented life.

We have to unlearn our conditioning of always striving for more things we don’t currently have and we have to relearn gratitude and sufficiency. Most people thankfully are in a privileged situation of abundance, and that, of course, is all relative but compared to the plight of many just 100 years ago, we live in abundant times.

The best day of our lives is today and always will be because life happens in the now moment. That does not stop use changing things to build a different future, but what we have right now is it. Be grateful for it and anything else that comes our way is a bonus. Life can be one of contentment and joy or one of dissatisfaction about things we don’t have.

It’s all a bonus

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If you start each day accepting that the past has gone, now is all we have, as the future may or may not happen. Then if you tell yourself that you have everything that you need, a home (well for most of us), some food in the fridge, some money in the bank, clothes on our back. We’ve probably got a job, someone who we love, children, friends and maybe a cat or a dog even.

OK, so we might not have absolutely everything, very few have. Then again we don’t need everything. All we need is acceptance of what we have and to choose to be happy with that.

If we start each day by saying ‘I have everything I need, I am going to focus on what I have, not what I don’t’.

Then anything else in life is all a bonus. It’s amazing how good each day can be with that mindset.

Every step of life is all a bonus because one day the journey will end. It’s just a question of how we look at each step.