The fantasy in our heads

The future is something that never actually happens, it doesn’t exist and is a fantasy acted out in our own individual heads. Each person’s mind conjuring a uniquely imagined and different future.

I wrote before, our lives are made up of a series of ‘now’ moments. Today, is the past tomorrow and tomorrow never happens. Now is life and it is the only life we have.

When we fantasise about the future and allow it to dominate our noisy minds then we will be consumed by fear, anxiety, worry, uncertainty and we will mainly be envisioning problems that haven’t occurred and all the mental and physical affects that will have on us.

Right now is the only thing that counts, it is our life and once we choose to live the life we have now we will only have to deal with the problems that are actually real and occurring right now. Not the fantasy that we imagine, as they never occur.

Amazingly if we only have to deal with problems as they appear, then we have not worried about and imagined a whole plethora of miserable outcomes and we haven’t judged. We simply use our intelligence to deal with the ‘now’ challenge as it occurs.

We let go of fear, worry and anxiety.

This is very liberating.

Not living the life I want…

Is something I’ve said to myself many times and I am sure many others have.

However, if we stopped to analyse now and stopped thinking about this future life that never actually arrives, we’d realise that we are living a far better life than we thought.

I did this very thing this morning while chatting with my mate on our weekly catch-up/accountability call. We both had to admit that life now was pretty damn good. If we allowed ourselves to look at what we actually have, instead of beating ourselves up about all the things we don’t have, that would somehow magically make our lives more like the one we’re always imagining and hoping will get one day in the future, then we’d live a much more relaxed and contented life.

We have to unlearn our conditioning of always striving for more things we don’t currently have and we have to relearn gratitude and sufficiency. Most people thankfully are in a privileged situation of abundance, and that, of course, is all relative but compared to the plight of many just 100 years ago, we live in abundant times.

The best day of our lives is today and always will be because life happens in the now moment. That does not stop use changing things to build a different future, but what we have right now is it. Be grateful for it and anything else that comes our way is a bonus. Life can be one of contentment and joy or one of dissatisfaction about things we don’t have.