The fantasy in our heads

The future is something that never actually happens, it doesn’t exist and is a fantasy acted out in our own individual heads. Each person’s mind conjuring a uniquely imagined and different future.

I wrote before, our lives are made up of a series of ‘now’ moments. Today, is the past tomorrow and tomorrow never happens. Now is life and it is the only life we have.

When we fantasise about the future and allow it to dominate our noisy minds then we will be consumed by fear, anxiety, worry, uncertainty and we will mainly be envisioning problems that haven’t occurred and all the mental and physical affects that will have on us.

Right now is the only thing that counts, it is our life and once we choose to live the life we have now we will only have to deal with the problems that are actually real and occurring right now. Not the fantasy that we imagine, as they never occur.

Amazingly if we only have to deal with problems as they appear, then we have not worried about and imagined a whole plethora of miserable outcomes and we haven’t judged. We simply use our intelligence to deal with the ‘now’ challenge as it occurs.

We let go of fear, worry and anxiety.

This is very liberating.

There could be a Walter Mitty in us all

Each and every one of us has fantasies about a different life, where we say things that perhaps we are not brave enough to say in real life, or we do things that we are fearful of doing in reality…perhaps we skydive, bungee jump or wrestle bears. Perhaps we have the job we really want in our heads but don’t know how to get to it in our actual life.

An imagination and daydreaming are essential for creativity and sadly in our current world, there is little time for fantasising, daydreaming and imagining a different life.

If we do not act upon these thoughts, however, then there is eventually a danger that we live one life in our heads and a quite different one in reality which only leads to an internal frustration and eventually a regret.

We could become Walter Mitty.