Tag: ego

Just acknowledge

Posted on by philipdodson

Every one of us thinks in our mind that we are always right.

Yet all of us can not be right all the time, because, in my mind, my ego tells me that you are wrong at the same time someone else believes they are right and therefore I must be wrong.

Why have humans not realised that we can not be right all the time and others always wrong? It’s not possible.

Simple, our ego will not allow us to be wrong. Even if we reluctantly accept that we are wrong and say so out loud, deep down the mind will work its magic to convince itself that it was still right, there were factors that made us temporarily make an error but we were still right.

The fact is, to our true essence and self, right or wrong does not matter. Yet we waste so much energy and focus on being right, all the time.

Perhaps we can just choose to neither agree nor disagree and just acknowledge the other person but not pass a judgement. Imagine how quickly conflict would go away.

Winning

Posted on by philipdodson

It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.

The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.

In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.

It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.