It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.
Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.
The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.
In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.
It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.
What if we weren’t conditioned to celebrate achievements?
Could this remove our sense of worth being linked to what we achieve?
What if we celebrated less shallow things such as kindness, empathy, listening and other things that are not related to being a ‘winner’?
It’s worth a thought as people crash from one traumatic disappointment to another all based on the hysterical pressure to reach the next achievements, most of which are shallow and without meaning.
Our purpose is not to win in a dog-eat-dog world of rancid competition, it’s something more meaningful and deeper that will bring is deep rooted joy.
We are all born worthy and will die worthy regardless of certificates, promotions, winning a race, the number likes on Facebook or followers on Instagram and so on.
Don’t get trapped in the achievements vortex that keeps us hooked on ‘the dream’ sold to us by the capitalist religion.
Celebrate things that really matter and it’s not an A* grade or another dopamine fuelled social media attention binge.
If we want to see change we have to be role models and inspire others.
I’ve had 51 years of being conditioned that worth is related to material things, job titles and other bullshit. More and more what matters to me is accepting my worth for who I am and trying to be truly myself.
It’s hard task and there’s a great deal of unlearning to do.