Winning

It is better to step away, let go and not seek to ‘win’. There does not have to be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

Winning is a game of the ego, where there is a position to defend and losing is a catastrophe for the fragile ego. This often leads to a ‘win at all costs’ approach…whatever that might lead us to do or say. We attach so much to winning that we are too afraid to let go.

The challenge with winning is the cost and the damage both short and long term for you and the loser.

In the short-term, winning may feel good, like a bar of chocolate does, but after there is the down side, seeing what it cost and how it affected the ‘loser’. That in turn has a negative affect on us.

It doesn’t mean you can not have a view, or say what you feel, it is however, just your view and not worth the violence mentally and/or physically that winning inflicts.

When the petrol is being tipped on the fire

There are situations in life when it is best to just step away.

When both sides have lost composure, lost their sense of perspective, when anger has come to the situation.

It is best to walk away, otherwise, we end up just pouring petrol on the flames and neither side wins and everyone loses.

Step back and allow the flames to subside.