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The relaxation/guilt circle

Posted on by philipdodson

Then, when we are wanting to relax, we feel guilty about the things we haven’t yet completed or need to be done. Also, in the industrialised world, it is seen as bad not to be constantly busy.

Therefore, relaxation time is far from that, it is stressful and time where we make ourselves feel bad.

When we are wanting to work, to do things, to take action, we feel resentful because when we were supposed to be relaxing in the evening or the weekend, we didn’t, we felt guilty. Therefore, we didn’t get time to chill and now work seems like a chore.

So, we don’t do the work and when it is time to relax, guess what? Yep, the same circle repeats itself guilt – resentment – guilt – resentment and so on.

To break it, we need to do one thing, create a time when work ends, and begins again, a shutdown. During the shutdown, we switch off work, phones, email, text, and so on.

If you are doing a job that is so important that you can not switch off for 8-12 hours a day, then change it, for the rest of us, there is nothing so earth-shatteringly important that it can not wait a few hours.

This breaks the circle of guilt followed by resentment. We properly relax and therefore we are fully supercharged to do our work, we get more work done and soon we have more time to relax.

Without it, what would you dare to do?

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Without fear, what would you dare to do?

When I mean fear, I do not mean fear caused by a current physical danger, we do not know when they will occur and, to be honest, when someone or something physically threatens us right now, we are either going to freeze, fight or take flight. It is not imaginary, it is real. We deal with a situation that occurs now, we do not have time to think, we simply accept and do something, or not.

Psychological fear is what sabotages us doing things constantly throughout our lives. It comes from the mind’s incessant obsession with projecting an imaginary future for us, driven by the self-image and all its insecurities, the need to protect the precious ego.

Being driven by our endless thoughts leads to an imagined fear, one that prohibits us from doing. As it is not a fear caused by physical danger and is only imagined, it is not real, and therefore, we can not cope with it or deal with, as it has not and will not, ever happen.

So without psychological fear, so that means without thinking of the future and thus living in our real lives, right now this moment, what would you do? What would you try?

Crazy, the insanity of creating imaginary fear to stop us living our lives now in the present moment to protect a mind created self-image known as our ego.