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A change of mind

Posted on by philipdodson

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Often we get paralysed by fear, especially when it comes to changing our mind about something.

We feel that if we change our mind and do not go ahead with something, especially when we have shared that plan out loud with the world, that we are being weak and that others will judge us. We will feel like we are unable to complete something.

Actually to change your mind and to change direction is brave, strong and requires the ability to admit that the path wasn’t for you.

We are all human and we make decisions based on what we know up to the point that the decision is made. It is based on our emotions and mindset at the point.

Naturally they alter over time and we can change our mindset, emotions and encounter new experiences and knowledge that lead to a new direction or path.

We can make the rules for our lives and that means we can change them and adapt them to what suits us. It is our choice and not that of others. Other people can make their choices too, but to not change because of what others make think will only hold us back from doing what is right for us.

The weaker and less analytical plough on regardless often through fear and often because they haven’t yet realised that change is needed. Doing something different is how we progress.

Reflection

Posted on by philipdodson

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I often talk about not over thinking, or analysing things too much. However, there is a need sometimes to pause for thought and some reflection.

In life, we face emotional situations at times. It could be someone’s actions or something they say to us or about us, that causes an initial reaction of hurt, or anger or other emotions.

This is normal to react this way initially and perfectly OK. It is OK to have emotions and to feel things like anger etc. However, if we react straight away based on those emotions, then we risk the wrong outcome.

Once we enter this emotional response mode, we engage the limbic brain often with a ‘win at all cost’ mentality. It becomes totally black and white, we often are seeking to inflict retribution.

The fact is, if you step away from the situation, give yourself some breathing space and take a moment to reflect, then you put yourself back in control of yourself. You are then likely to respond with clarity and not be clouded by emotion.

By doing that, the recipient is more likely to engage and respond in a similar manner instead of responding with anger or other emotions.

This does not mean that you are backing down or being weak, in fact in shows strength and shows that you are in control and not going skip to someone else’s tune.

Reflection can be a very powerful tool to regain control of your emotions.