Tag: let go

Desperate to be right

Posted on by philipdodson

It’s funny, when we are engaged with the mind, the ego takes over, and the ‘red mist’ descends and we are unable to be calm. We will go to almost any lengths to find evidence to be right about something and prove others wrong.

We will relish the opportunity to force our views on others and then, if we are correct, we will then go to the same means to tell others that we were right, relishing saying ‘I told you so’.

Mad isn’t it. In a conscious awake state, what does it matter?

A peaceful life comes from accepting our views are just that and it does not matter whether we are right or wrong. Life is better when we let go.

Helping others

Posted on by philipdodson

What we think others need, is actually what we need.

When we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.

When we criticise, judge, compare, even well-intentioned thoughts of helping others, it is actually a reflection of ourselves and our needs. Instead of looking inwardly, our egos make us look outwardly to place our own frustrations on others or to build a feeling of superiority to make us feel better. So we can say that ‘I know best’ or ‘they’re doing it wrong’.

If we all focus on helping ourselves, and not judging, criticising, or ‘helping’ others, then we expand and are able to be an example and bring our light to others, not our interference, coercion or negativity. We have no right to assume we know others inner story or that we know what is best for them. We do not own others, we are all equal souls and can content ourselves with just being and letting others be.

Helping ourselves is a positive thing for ourselves and others, judging or forming opinions of others is only damaging and negative for ourselves and others.