In countries where food is not plentiful, life is more simple, they have less of most things and people often sit in a group of friends or family and perhaps pray or say something to express their gratitude for what they have and what they are about to eat.

In other parts of the world, where food is plentiful and very often wasted, where people often sit alone to eat, the only thing that happens is people take a photo of their food and post it on Instagram for others to like. Then return to their smartphones and eat, not just consuming food but consuming yet more data.

We’re confused in our thinking that having everything equates to happiness. The people who have the least tend to have the most gratitude and joy in life and those that have it all are often unfulfilled.

Means or end

We can always do better is the default thinking.

What’s wrong with that?

The challenge is better is subjective and it also implies that we have not done something well. It is always looking into the future so everything becomes just a means towards a mind projected end. So there is no focus on the ‘doing’ just the outcome.

We could choose to accept what we have done, learn for sure, but perhaps to say we did this thing or another element really well, how can we do more of what we did right next time.

The key is to focus on the ‘doing’ with all our concentration, being in the moment, instead of the focus being on some imagined future outcome. So the means is the end. The outcome is a distraction and a drain on our positive focus as we start to engage with anxiety about the end.

The means is the end and not a means to an end because when we focus on the end we are lost right now and do not produce our best. The end is a projected outcome that doesn’t exist. The doing right now is all we have and that’s what counts.