Tag: change

Demons

Posted on by philipdodson

IMG_6129

Throughout life, we allow demons to live in our heads.

These are created by the ‘truths’ we tell ourselves about ourselves. Usually not based on much, other than our own fears, or a comments someone else made, that we let affect the view we have of ourselves.

Then habitually we tell ourselves these so-called truths. Then the resulting beliefs, and actions based on those beliefs, wrongly become reality.

How do we exorcise these demons?

Not by ignoring them, hoping that we can bury them and they will go away.

Often, when the demon has been caused by taking other people’s views of us as the ‘truth’, then there is a temptation to prove them wrong.

That again is not a recipe for successfully exorcising that demon either. This accepting that their judgement was right and then we behave according to that and not how we really are, it only serves to confirm that so-called truth. It makes us behave in a way that is not the real us.

In order to deal with any demon, you have to firstly want to make that change for you and not for others. You have to also work out why that demon is wrong and why you want to change it, what do you want the real truth to be. You have to say ‘that is not the truth about me and I don’t accept it’.

When you realise that you have allowed others to tell you, or you have simply accepted, that you are doing something wrong, or you are not worthy, or a particular judgement was right, then you will be able to challenge it.

Once you have your strong reason why you want to change and what to, then the rest is a question of step by step creating a new truth. That is all to do with the habits of how we talk to ourselves and what we will allow ourselves to accept from ourselves and others.

Build the truths about you that you want, not what others tell you.

Fear of different

Posted on by philipdodson

IMG_5319

As the industrialised world has blurred everything into a mass product, service, opinion and standardised almost all, we have become almost hysterically fearful of different.

Yet the thing that propelled us, from the hunter/gatherers on the plains of East Africa to settling all over this planet, and all that has happened in that 70,000-year journey as a human race, was the curiosity that drove us to be different and create new things.

Now we have settled for compliance, acceptance of one voice of the myth makers, no matter how wrong it sounds and no matter how much deep down it conflicts with our values. We accept war, racism, poverty, absurdly grotesque wealth inequality, industrialised agriculture causing unimaginable suffering to animals, the destruction of our environment and countless other seemingly obvious wrong doings.

Fear of different has paralysed the human race.

Has this 70,000-year journey been all to just do as we are told, to become a drone and trudge like zombies to our graves, just being a cog in their machine, removed and replaced with another when we are no longer fit for purpose?

The only way to break this paralysis is for all of us as individuals to do our bit, to question, to be curious and to strive to find new and different solutions to continue the evolution.

Different will keep this human race alive, not compliance. Break free, leave fear behind and be different.

We can all make a difference, none of us are too small. As the Dalai Lama said ‘if you think you are too small to make a difference try sleeping with a mosquito’.