Tag: wrong

Change your lens

Posted on by philipdodson

Often we do not listen, we hear, but do not listen. That is because we are fearful of being wrong with our own views, or scared that the polarised camp we are in may well be wrong too.

Very few things are so simple as to be a case of one option or the other and that is what we are frightened of, so it is easier to shut down, close off, hide, pretend there is no other view.

Take a moment to choose to embrace the opposite view more than the one you currently believe, walk a mile in the other sides shoes, put on their lens for a day. Change the lens and see another view and look without evaluation or judgement, just observe.

Maybe, just maybe, we would be able to come together as a human race instead of being hatefully apart.

If learning was easy I’d be smart

Posted on by philipdodson

I’ve discovered rather painfully, on more than one occasion in life, that learning for me is tough.

It requires me to understand others and me, which means listening.

It then requires a willingness to change and to realise that the choices that I’ve made and continue to make, have consequences for me and others.

It requires me to leave the right and wrong behind and to be accountable, responsible but free from reproaching me and others.

Learning is one of the hardest things I have to do.

I realised most of all that I can only do it if I want to.

If learning was easy, perhaps I’d be smart, but the struggle of learning makes all that more satisfying and lasting.

On with the struggle, the baby steps to learning pay off if I’m patient.