When the end comes

When we reach the end of our journeys, when our life is coming to an end, will we worry about the bills, the noisy neighbour, the mess left in the kitchen, the train that’s late, the missed opportunity, the queue at the supermarket, the other motorist who cut in front?

The answer is likely to be ‘no’.

If we accept that our death is inevitable, then we can stop worrying about these things now. 99.99% of our worries are trivial and simply a future mind projection inside our head, that’s why we cannot deal with them as they are psychological and not a real present moment threat.

We can choose to stop resisting what is, we can choose to surrender to the situations in life and to stop labelling them as a problem, that can lead to peace now, to less negativity. We can choose to stop identifying ourselves with a future projection of our mind, as anything that happens now we can deal with as a situation, anything in the projected future we cannot, as it has, and will, never happen.

This can enable us to give all our attention and focus to the things that really matter now, like living our real life in this moment, instead of waiting our entire life until our death to stop worrying.

A funny thing

It turns out we are rather good at that thing we’ve wanted to do but our mind has sabotaged us from trying it.

What happened? We decided to do it…1,2,3…let’s go. We braved it, we stepped out of our mind, we allowed the fear to be the guide instead of the inhibitor.

The things we fear are the things that matter and the more we fear the more they matter. Why? Because our mind is programmed to protect the self-image the same as our limbic system is designed to protect the physical us. So if a bus is hurtling towards us we react instantly thanks to our limbic brains.

The mind lives in the past or the future, constantly fueling the self-image and projecting forward looking for salvation or more of the same. So when we try to do something, the mind creates worry, anxiety, fear through future projections of what will happen if we try. The mind does not want anything to happen to the self-image so the future projections are usually gloomy.

The moment we step away from our thinking and just do, focusing on that thing and that thing alone, deep focus, then the mind is silent and disarmed. What happens then is we learn, get even better and realise the fear/worry/anxiety etc wasn’t real.

We realise that the thing we’ve wanted to do, we can and we can do it and enjoy doing it.

Stay away from the mind and a funny thing will happen, we’ll fear things less.