Tag: Philip Dodson

True friendships are based on values

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There are times in life, when you need to move on from certain people who are have a negative and draining influence on us.

We often don’t even realise the damage that can be done to our own reputations by just being associated with certain people.

It is common, we are on our various journeys and our paths cross with people. At that moment in time, when those paths cross, certain people can be exactly what we need at that moment in time.

However, we can also find that within a few months or even a couple of years, that person has seemed to change or there is an uneasy feeling about our relationship with that person. Often, it is there all along, but we override our instincts. Or peer pressure convinces us that the person is ‘OK’.

It is allowed to move on, it is OK to say to ourselves that this relationship has served a purpose, often for both parties, but now it is time to go our separate ways. It is normal that some relationships only serve us for a short period. There is nothing wrong with that. But some can be more toxic than we realise.

Once you know that you are at that point, then the sooner you do it the better, as the stone in the shoe never goes away by itself.

More often it is because we have evolved as a person and that we have changed, whereas the other person may have stayed the same. Often it is where we think we have aligned values, but then it turns out that the other person has mislead us or is not living by their values.

This is just a part of life and there is no value in over-thinking why a relationship hasn’t turned out how we wanted or expected.

The true friends or relationships that work and last, are ones based on values, where both parties have a good number of shared common values and they are living by them too.

As someone more famous than me said ‘be the change you want to see happen’ and that means having to be honest with ourselves about who we choose to be influenced by in life. It means living by our values and then we attract the right people.

Check your values and then you’ll know what is right for you.

Where’s the rush?

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We are taught to hurry, to get things done quickly, grow our businesses fast, before someone else comes along and does it first.

There is a great deal of pressure associated with this philosophy and it is all driven by the feeling of following the accepted ‘wisdom’.

It is all part of a culture of instant gratification and not being prepared to wait for anything.

We set up a business and immediately want to fast track it to success by borrowing money and buying instant success.

If it doesn’t work instantly, then ‘pivot’ also known as giving up.

But where is the fun in that? Where is the sense of satisfaction?

Life is a wonderful journey and if we are to craft our very best creations, then that takes time.

Taking time and enjoying it, is much more rewarding and it doesn’t matter if others are perceived to have done ‘it’ first, as you are not looking to create any kind of ‘it’. You are looking to create your own unique work, that will be simply that, unique. That takes time, practice and patience.

Enjoy what you do, don’t rush it for others. Go and create what resonates with you, take your time, enjoy the challenges and digest the learning. Then feel the happiness and joy of sharing something that you know is the best you could have done.