The choice about being right

Wanting to be right causes a great deal of suffering within and for the world in general.

‘I’m right’, of course, naturally, and so say 8 billion other human souls inside their minds. We can’t all be right all the time, it’s not possible.

What is ‘right’ anyway? A strange concept that our mind clings onto about us holding the truth over others.

The truth is always subjective and right or wrong do not matter, except to the ego and the collective ego. They are all just mythical mental concepts constructed by the ego to enable us to be superior to another.

The ego will protect itself and being right at all costs. Untold cost to itself and others is caused over being right or not. How many human lives have been lost and untold suffering to millions over someone not willing to be wrong.

Fearing of being wrong and the humiliation of it is very powerful and admitting that their view may not be right is too painful for most to contemplate. Better to continue the suffering.

If however, we accept that nothing is in fact right or wrong, it is all subjective, if we accept that our views are just views, a temporary mental construct based on our mind’s filtering of the world, then we can break our egotistical attachment and end the suffering for ourselves and others. It is the negative impact of the resistance, the emotions that occur by reacting to a challenge to our views that bring about the pain for us and others.

The only true thing is this eternal unfolding present moment, now, where our actual real life occurs, here we can accept all, see that there is no view that matters right now and enjoy just being. We can let go of the ego, let go of our views and enjoy peace within.

It’s a choice, there is of course, no right or wrong.

Numb it

When we numb the bad in our head or life with drugs, alcohol, gambling, food…in fact, any addictive behaviour, we also numb out the good too. So everything starts to seem bad. We do not enjoy life.

Equally, whatever we are choosing to numb doesn’t go anywhere from temporarily blocking it. It get’s locked back in until the numbing wears off.

When we resist within whatever it is that is troubling us then that brings us pain, so we choose to lock it away and hope it doesn’t escape and resurface, we hope it gets lost in the recesses of our mind. It doesn’t, it waits and comes back even stronger.

It is better to always accept what is, to welcome the bad and to let it be there without resisting it. This way we do not need to suffer the pain of fighting it. Equally, if we just let it be without the fight, and do not energise it, then it will start to dissolve.

Always the fight and denial coupled with numbing it to make it go away for a bit leads to the suffering within, both mentally and eventually physically. In addition, our suffering boils over into the exterior and others suffer too.

The numbing also stops us from making the conscious choice within to let something go and to be free from the pain. It is just a patch. We choose how to react to everything within and in the exterior world.

Surrendering to what is, allowing a thought to be, allowing the bad to be, letting go frees us to be at peace.