Theirs is much better

Others work, whether it’s cooking, running, jumping, art, singing, dancing, writing, music…the list could go on, and on, and on, is better than mine.

When we compare ourselves to others, we always pick are a person we perceive to be better than us, then in a self-deprecating style, we say ‘theirs is better than mine’.

This hiding behind criticising ourself serves two purposes, one is an attention-seeking attempt, hoping that another will say ‘oh, don’t be silly, your ‘x’ is amazing’, this helps reassure our fragile ego, and the second, is a total protection of our fragile ego, by eliminating the risk of ridicule for claiming that our work ‘is the best’. We do not dare to step into the spotlight for fear of judgement or failure.

The fact is, all of it stems from the mind, and attachment to our ego and the story of ‘poor little me’.

Our work is neither the best nor the worst, these are just judgements of the mind and collective mind.

Our work just is. It only needs to be better or worse to serve the story and to allow us to feel inferior or superior. Others work is the same, neither good nor bad. All of this judgement cycle just leads to internal suffering, which then leads to suffering for others too.

Be happy in the doing of the work, enjoy the moment and be content with what is, seek pleasure from creating what we love in our soul not what we judge in our mind.

Of course, it’s lovely, of course, it’s amazing, of course, it’s beautiful. It is whatever we tell ourselves it is and it does not matter.

We are all our own biggest critic as a defence mechanism, instead, we could choose to be our own and other people’s biggest fans. Do from the soul and not criticise from the mind.

Love our work, love other people’s work too. It ends suffering and judegement.

The biggest regret

Doing something that really counts involves hard work, patience, the willingness to learn, focus and sticking to the plan no matter what others think. It takes pain and a willingness to sacrifice short-term gratification and ignoring quick fixes. There is little choice in this if we want our work to stand out and make a difference with what we do.

What that work is though is entirely our choice and there is no wrong choice here. What matters to us is personal and what others think is irrelevant.

The biggest regret we will have in life at the end of our journeys is that we didn’t choose to do something that matters and we didn’t make the sacrifices to achieve this and settle for the quick fix. There it is too late, we won’t be able to turn back the clocks.

What we do today will build the future and the legacy we want and will help us avoid big regrets.