Do you enjoy each mouthful?

The simple things of the moment are the reality of life that we do not even notice. We are so rarely in this present moment, that we experience almost nothing of the conscious real world.

When you shower, do you feel the water, the soap on your skin? Do you hear the noise the shower makes as the water flows? Do you notice the water draining away? Do you notice the steam and feel the heat? Or are you in your mind, wanting to be already dressed and eating breakfast as you are late for a meeting?

When you eat your breakfast, do you enjoy each mouthful? Do you taste what you eat? Or are you already with your mind in the car on the way to work?

When you are in the car, do see the beautiful trees, the sky, see the birds, notice the people on the streets? Do you even look at the roundabout? Or are you already in the mind rehearsing what you will say to your boos when she asks you why you haven’t finished the report?

We are always doing everything as a means to ends to get to the future, where apparently everything will be OK. The thing is there is no future other than a construct in your mind. When we reach the ‘future’ it is now and all you will want to be is somewhere else.

Just enjoy it now, you are already where your life is and where it can only be.

Just be.

The two pains of falling down

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So I fell on my arse, quite literally on some ice this week, it hurt but it went away with time.

I have fallen on my arse metaphorically many times in life, it hurts and still does.

The difference between the two pains is our choice.

The physical pain will go often of its own accord, although, here the mind can prolong or exaggerate the pain if we so choose. But over time we heal.

The mental pain of failure is there for as long as we choose it to be and its severity is another choice we make. We can hold on to failure or let it go. But if we choose, the mental pain can remain for a lifetime.

We can allow it to dominate or we can accept it and choose a different outcome. We can let go, we can move forward, forgive, learn and step out of victimhood.

After all, we will always have falls in life, it is how we deal with it that matters.

Pain is a choice.