Tag: love

True attention

Posted on by philipdodson

Often I find myself looking at my phone, perhaps thinking of something else or many times thinking about my reply when someone is talking to me. 

I’m not listening, although, we think that is listening, because that’s normal behaviour for most of us. We are thinking about our agenda. 

However, for the person talking, it can lead them to think that you aren’t listening and you don’t care about what they have to say. The feel invisible. 

One of the greatest things we can give to our fellow humans is conscious listening. 

That means that all we are doing is listening to their words and engaging with them and actually looking them straight in the eye. We are paying attention to them and their words. 

This this helps to make the other person feel seen and understood, which is something we all seek

True listening is an act of pure love for another. 

I need more…

Posted on by philipdodson

In life, we are waiting always for someone else to be first

We expect others to show us love, attention, kindness, compassion, all these things that we so crave, and then of course, when we don’t receive them, we are disappointed. 

We are always in negative state of lack. Looking to others to fulfil it. 

Like everything in life, the solution to the disappointment is within us. 

Firstly, we should never look to others for our own happiness, love etc, all those things are our responsibility. 

However, we need to ask ourselves ‘am I giving that to the World?’.

Answer will be ‘no’ as you can only lack something you are not giving yourself first and then to others. 

If we want more hugs, we need to give those hugs first. If we want more love, we have to love ourselves and give that love to others. If you want more attention, we need to be truly attentive to others.

The World is always a reflection of our inner state and only us can control that inner state. 

Be first and end disappointment. One small step towards change.