Tag: achievements

One of the biggest obstacles

Posted on by philipdodson

We often analyse and search for what are the obstacles to progress in life. Ironically, thinking and analysing things, is in fact the biggest obstacle.

The more that we think, the more that we analyse, the more we give our inner voice a chance to take over. The strongest part of our inner voice lives in the limbic brain, the chimp brain, this part of the brain is 5 times more powerful than our human, frontal brain.

The chimp in us does not want to be ridiculed, or threatened in anyway, is risk adverse for those reasons and settles for the routine and comfort over starting something new.

As I have blogged more and more, now I rarely struggle with what to write each day, but today I sat and I started to think through ideas, then the chimp brain took over and self doubt crept in. I started to over analyse all the ideas that came into my head, where normally I run with the first idea that comes up, and I just start typing.

This does not mean that we should never analyse or think about things, especially when our emotions have been enagaged, we need time to reflect and that is important.

However, when we have task to start and things to do, just do, count to three and just start, the moment you pause to question, then BAM!!!! we will start to talk ourselves out of it.

Don’t look for obstacles, don’t analyse things that we can not predict anyway, don’t look for certainty, that’s dull. Just start.

Other people’s rules

Posted on by philipdodson

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All too often we say ‘by now I should be _______’. This is when we fall into the comparison drama with others and where we perceive them to be versus us. We automatically assume that everything in this other person’s life is much better than our own. We tell ourselves that we have failed, as we have not reached the ‘level’ of others.

Why do we allow others to dictate to us where we should be, or should be doing, with our lives? Why do we feel this need to compare ourselves to others?

Firstly the word is ‘could’ not ‘should’ as there is no preset laid out plan with achievement levels that we need to have reached. ‘Could’ gives us the freedom to choose for ourselves. ‘Should’ is a negative, it implies a duty.

Secondly, it does not matter where we are with our lives. It is up to us to decide what success looks like to us. It is a personal thing, not the business of others, as it is not ours to judge anyone else’s success.

What others think is not important in the slightest. Comparisons are always going to have a negative impact on our mindset and success. We all have our own lives, we are not other people, and what they have or have not achieved is not relevant to us.

All that matters is what our dreams are, and working step by step to achieve them. Do not live by the rules of others, create your own, that’s if you need rules at all, but just be focused on you and what you want to do with your life.

After all what is right or wrong is just an opinion.