Helping others become even better versions of themselves
Listen and don’t try to fix others.
People aren’t broken, they just want to be understood and not told what you think. Sure offer a viewpoint if asked, but listen, as in really listen not just preparing what we will say next while they talk.
We each have our own unique journey.
Empathy instead of sympathy, listening instead of telling, and acceptance of others for what they are.
We control one thing in life…our own journey.
Everything else is outside our control and any attempt to control someone or something else is a futility.
No one likes to be controlled by others and when we attempt it, it is simply manipulation.
We spend endless energy on attempting to control things that we cannot and the resulting suffering for ourselves and the people we try to control is a big part of the suffering in the world.
If we accept everything as it is, if we accept that we can only control our own life and if we let go of the expectation of doing so with something or someone and the manipulation we have to construct to do so, then peace comes within us and for the others that we are trying to control.
Events, the weather, actions of others, thoughts of others, others opinions of us, governments, banks, neighbours, partners, wife/husband/son/daughter…the list can go on and on, are not things that we can alter, so it’s best to just let it go, stop resisting it, stop fighting it and just be and let others be.
Once we get to this stage, we then have so much more energy and space within to concentrate on our own journey, happiness and growth. Our life is our responsibility and other people’s journeys are theirs.
Philip Dodson 