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True friendships are based on values

Posted on by philipdodson

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There are times in life, when you need to move on from certain people who are have a negative and draining influence on us.

We often don’t even realise the damage that can be done to our own reputations by just being associated with certain people.

It is common, we are on our various journeys and our paths cross with people. At that moment in time, when those paths cross, certain people can be exactly what we need at that moment in time.

However, we can also find that within a few months or even a couple of years, that person has seemed to change or there is an uneasy feeling about our relationship with that person. Often, it is there all along, but we override our instincts. Or peer pressure convinces us that the person is ‘OK’.

It is allowed to move on, it is OK to say to ourselves that this relationship has served a purpose, often for both parties, but now it is time to go our separate ways. It is normal that some relationships only serve us for a short period. There is nothing wrong with that. But some can be more toxic than we realise.

Once you know that you are at that point, then the sooner you do it the better, as the stone in the shoe never goes away by itself.

More often it is because we have evolved as a person and that we have changed, whereas the other person may have stayed the same. Often it is where we think we have aligned values, but then it turns out that the other person has mislead us or is not living by their values.

This is just a part of life and there is no value in over-thinking why a relationship hasn’t turned out how we wanted or expected.

The true friends or relationships that work and last, are ones based on values, where both parties have a good number of shared common values and they are living by them too.

As someone more famous than me said ‘be the change you want to see happen’ and that means having to be honest with ourselves about who we choose to be influenced by in life. It means living by our values and then we attract the right people.

Check your values and then you’ll know what is right for you.

Toilet paper and changing the world? Really?

Posted on by philipdodson

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If you have been following the story, I am on a quest to put my why into everything in my life, put my values into all that I do. So I have previously blogged about soap and fruit changing the world.

Well now it’s the turn of toilet paper to carry the banner of the revolution.

So I was sitting planning my daily #WalkNTalk Periscope and I planned today’s topic to be on ‘don’t use supermarkets’, which is something we have started doing at home, and something I am now applying to my business. In business change supermarket with Amazon.

Supermarkets/Amazon are bad because:

* They don’t treat their staff very well
* They kill small businesses, run by real people for the community
* They avoid paying tax
* They cook their books (Tesco)
* They sell us horse meat that is supposed to be beef

The list could go on, but hopefully the point is made.

While planning, I remember I needed some more toilet paper for my coworking space. I normally have been buying it from Amazon (uh oh I’ve admitted to being wrong publicly). So I went onto the internet and searched for ‘eco friendly toilet paper’ and found eco-leaf on Amazon, looked up the company directly, which is Suma. I then called them to find out how to buy without using Amazon. To cut a long story short check out Ethical Superstore.

They have all the convenience and ease of Amazon, but they are decent, ethical and great people.

So this is yet another step in my journey to change things, step by step the world can be changed, if we all do a little bit each day to find an alternative, and support the people, who were driven by their why, to make a change to the world. So toilet paper can change the world.

Next stop the coffee.

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