Deny things is a simple resistance to what is and will cause inner suffering, mental and thereafter, physical too. Like continuing to walk with a stone in our shoe, hoping that it might just go away. Denying that it’s there brings pain.
Acceptance of the stone in the shoe, what is, allows us to simply deal with it now, or not deal with it as that’s a choice too, but we end the suffering in the mind as we’ve accepted that it’s there. We do not hide from what is occurring now or in almost all cases, what has already occurred and therefore we are unable to change no matter how much we want to.
The only time we can actually deal with anything is now. Anything other than that simple acceptance is mental suffering and in the case of the stone in the shoe, physical as well, which interestingly always comes after mental suffering.