Tag: self worth

Angry

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Anger often is caused by our frustrations with ourselves. This then gets expressed outwardly towards others and anything that we can latch onto.

Unfortunately, the society we have encourages hate, judgement and fear. As a consequence, it is easy to find things or people to vent our anger on.

Anger is a complete waste of time, it never makes us feel good, even after venting it, and the recipient, often ourselves, never feels good either.

It is all to do with our sense of worthiness. If we could only tell ourselves that we are already worthy, no matter what we have achieved, no matter what others think and no matter what we have or don’t have.

This where it starts. Loving ourselves, instead of being angry or frustrated. We have to be our own No1 fan, our own cheerleader, we have to accept ourselves and say we are already good enough.

If we love ourselves, feel worthy and accept ourselves, then there is no room for anger and the pedlars of hate, fear, judgement in society will have one less recruit for their cause.

Popularity

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The numbers of RT’s, FB likes or shares matter not.

Popular people do not live more fulfilling lives, they are not more worthy human beings, they are not anything different to anybody else.

It is how we perceive popularity and people we regard as popular, usually measured by quantities of something – money, likes, friends and so on. Its dictionary definition is ‘the state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people’.

It is more about our society and the fact we have created a measure of worthiness by what we achieve, own, the number of friends and so on. We allow other people’s rules to define how we view ourselves.

Comparison to others is a complete waste of time and energy.

Worthiness does not need to be measured or defined, as that is the antithesis of what worthy is. As Brene Brown says ‘we are all already worthy’. We do not need to prove that, every single person is born equal and worthy. If we accept that we are worthy, then popularity is meaningless.

It is our perception of what is important that creates this need to be liked. We are not here for everyone, we have our own uniquesness, our own values and we need to be 100% ourselves.

Do not aim for popularity, aim for being genuinely you.

As the people who will appreciate us without judgement will not care if we are popular or not. Nor should we care how others are percieved.

Just focus on reminding yourself every day that you are already worthy. Be you, be proud of you, be happy and live your own life without comparison to others.