There is always something wrong

There is always something wrong if you look for it. Especially if this is the filter that your mind uses.

Looking for something wrong yields wrong-doing always and that wrong enables our mind to react, complain, it allows our ego to be justified. It makes us feel superior, that is what the ego needs in its vulnerable state.

Yet, the pointing out or reacting to things that are wrong, and that is ‘wrong’ only in our minds, doesn’t make anyone else feel good. Interestingly though, the person who suffers most is the person who seeks the wrong-doing and does the pointing out, as they are the ones that are doing the judging. A judgement of others is, in fact, a judgement of ourselves.

It is a reflection of our own discontentment that leads us to manifest that in criticism of other people’s behaviour, with the hope, that catching others misdemeanours or mistakes somehow will elevate us above them and brings salvation to us.

The insecurity of the ego leads to continued pain and suffering, do not look for right or wrong in ourselves or others, accept them and ourselves for what we are and do not form opinions or judgements. This way there is peace within and within our relationships with others.

If we forgive

If we forgive the pain has gone, we do not need to carry it. Whatever happened, it happened, and the moment we accept it and move forward with forgiveness is the moment the pain will go too. The moment and the event has gone, and is in the past. Now is all that matters.

It allows closure, we choose, we allow ourselves to let go, to be free of the mind and its desire for retribution. The ego wants revenge, the soul wants peace.

Acceptance and forgiveness go hand in hand with inner peace, healing and joy. We may not be happy about what happened, however, even if the surface of the water is turbulent, the bottom of the sea is always calm.

That is the same with us when we forgive, we are the calm of the deep ocean, when we fight and allow hate, revenge, anger and other emotions to come, then we become turbulent like a sea in a storm. We can be unhappy but still be at peace with it, only when we let go.

Forgiveness is not easy, but it is better than a lifetime of pain and hate for something we can never change.