Evaluation

‘There are no good or bad people that come to our lives. There are only teachers’, I think it was the Buddha that said that.

It’s a very interesting perspective, as many people cross our paths in our life, sometimes for just a moment, sometimes a few weeks, a few months, some years or maybe a lifetime. It is the mind that judges and labels people ‘good’ or ‘bad’ based on our lenses that we view the world through. What if we accepted that each person has something to teach us and looked for that instead?

If we step away from the judgement and choose to look out to the exterior world without evaluation, then we see people for the soul that they are, we hear the words they actually say, we appreciate what they teach us. We truly see them and become willing to appreciate what they can offer to guide us or be an example to us.

Everything in life is an experience, and an opportunity to learn something or to just appreciate the beauty of each new experience. When we stop the ‘good’ or ‘bad’ label we appreciate this amazing moment of life for what it is, and each and every moment. We appreciate others instead of judging them.

It’s our evaluations that stop us growing not good or bad people, they only teach if we allow ourselves to see it.

Second guessing

When we live our lives trying to second guess what others might think or like, we live a life dominated by our mind and we suffer.

If we choose to live doing what feels right to us, what we believe, what we feel, what pleases us, then we end the suffering within and we end the suffering for others too. We are spontaneous and we do what comes naturally, we do not have to keep trying to do what we think will please others.

Just be, just be ourselves, be true to our feelings and live the life we want.