Tag: no

No

Posted on by philipdodson

In business ‘no’ is not the personal rejection that we often choose to think it is. We so often become deflated by that small two-letter word.

The person does not know you that well to make that personal judgement.

What a ‘no’ means is often, your pitch was not clear enough, you are not solving my problem, you did not understand the problem, you were not confident enough, it’s the wrong time and so on.

As always it is how we choose to see things.

‘No’ means we have to do even better, we have to listen better, we have to learn and move forward with a better version.

It does not mean you are a failure or worthless. We all too often wrongly equate our work with our worth. We are all already worthy regardless of what we achieve.

Sorry, I’m being me, before I explode

Posted on by philipdodson

IMG_3658

Life can make us feel like we want to explode.

We are pressured to fit in to other people’s agendas or views, we feel we need to not ‘rock the boat’ or to say ‘yes’, when actually we know instinctively that something is not for us.

However, there is this pressure to not let others down, or to do something as it is ‘the right thing to do’.

When we get pressured to follow other people’s agendas, it never ends up well for either party.

We end up doing stuff reluctantly and then feel the need to be apologising when we deliver what we know to be sub-standard or below the par set by others.

We end up apologising all the time, we say sorry to others, sorry for not being ourselves!!

We need to learn to say ‘no’ and we need to learn to do what is right for us. Then we will be happy and better able to serve the people in our lives that matter. The people who will not judge us by their way of doing things, and will accept a ‘no’, knowing that you are being genuine.

Those who cannot accept you, are not the people we are looking for in life.

It is hard to learn, but once you master it, you will get more done for you. After all it is your life.