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500+ friends and yet so few friends

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We have collectively created a world where we have confused more of something to be better than less. Whatever happened to quality?

500 friends on Facebook seems amazing, wow so many friends! It’s especially amazing to a generation that grew up before Facebook, yes I am that old. We used to have maybe 5-6 friends, who we might phone or see once a week, they were typically local, not living in Australia or Bali or Venezuela. We’d often grown up with them, known their families, and went to school together.

Now we break into a mild hysterical panic if one of our ‘friends’ does not reply within minutes.

We believe we are so popular in our dopamine fueled Nirvana of ‘likes’,’hearts’, ‘Wows’ and ‘Hahas’, yet how many of the 500 are real true friends that we truly connect to and who will be there for us whatever?

Of course, social media enables us to share things and keep connected with distant friends. But it isn’t a replacement for life, as in real life.

We can get everything in an instant in our world, but real friendships aren’t created in an instant.

They are not made online.

Focus on real people, in real-time and in the physical world, not the digital one.

Popularity

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The numbers of RT’s, FB likes or shares matter not.

Popular people do not live more fulfilling lives, they are not more worthy human beings, they are not anything different to anybody else.

It is how we perceive popularity and people we regard as popular, usually measured by quantities of something – money, likes, friends and so on. Its dictionary definition is ‘the state or condition of being liked, admired, or supported by many people’.

It is more about our society and the fact we have created a measure of worthiness by what we achieve, own, the number of friends and so on. We allow other people’s rules to define how we view ourselves.

Comparison to others is a complete waste of time and energy.

Worthiness does not need to be measured or defined, as that is the antithesis of what worthy is. As Brene Brown says ‘we are all already worthy’. We do not need to prove that, every single person is born equal and worthy. If we accept that we are worthy, then popularity is meaningless.

It is our perception of what is important that creates this need to be liked. We are not here for everyone, we have our own uniquesness, our own values and we need to be 100% ourselves.

Do not aim for popularity, aim for being genuinely you.

As the people who will appreciate us without judgement will not care if we are popular or not. Nor should we care how others are percieved.

Just focus on reminding yourself every day that you are already worthy. Be you, be proud of you, be happy and live your own life without comparison to others.