Tag: judgement

Do it for yourself

Posted on by philipdodson

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Often in life people say they did it for so and so, I made this for you, I wrote this for….I created it for….I designed it for x.

The best things created are when we do it for ourselves.

If we do things for others, how do we really know what others want or like?

Once we do things for others, we start to care what others think and when the response isn’t good, then we kill our self-confidence, and often then try too hard to please.

Don’t try to please others, as it opens us up to the worst of the feelings of not being good enough.

Write for yourself, sing for yourself, paint for yourself, do the things that you love the most for yourself.

That way you will create without fear of criticism, fear of judgement of others and then because it is likely then to be the best you can do, then others will find you and your art.

Success is what matters to us. It’s personal.

‘They’ say

Posted on by philipdodson

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Nearly every question we ask ourselves inside our heads, we deep down instinctively know the right answer for us, most times we do not take our own instinctive advice.

I hear people saying ‘they say I must do this or that’. Who are ‘they’?

‘They’, well ‘they’ are the experts, the people who know what is good for us.

At times in my life, I made the error of listening to what ‘they’ said or what I thought ‘they’ were telling me to do.

But ‘they’ are not the experts, ‘they’ do not know what is good for me and ‘they’ are not me.

In fact ‘they’ do not even exist, we have invented them in our heads to justify, internally to ourselves and externally to others, why we do not do something.

Stop listen to them, stop invent them – ‘they’ do not know us, we know ourselves and that is who we need to listen to.

Listen to you, as you are the expert on you, after all who has been with us all of our lives, through every situation? yes YOU.