Tag: judgement

Labels should be for clothes

Posted on by philipdodson

Often, once someone is labelled they become the label. There is little room for a person to change and they become treated for their ‘label’. There is always judgement and stigmas associated with the label. A chance for others to feel good that they aren’t in that category.

We are all unique human beings, and it is easy to tag us, far harder to accept our differences and be understanding and empathetic towards each other. It’s like sorting things into boxes, great for order and easy, but with people the complete opposite to what is needed, we aren’t just things to be separated by an arbitrary judgement of another human.

Labels on humans are far harder to remove once placed. Labels should be for clothes, not people.

Listening without evaluation

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Silence by Philip Dodson

A wise person said ‘the highest form of intelligence is to be able to listen without evaluation’.

We all seek to be understood and to be able to listen empathetically is a challenge.

The key to it is being able to be disconnected from our mindstreams and that requires us to be conscious and present in the moment.

When we are awake, we simply witness our thoughts and do not energise them, that means there is space to listen, without the mind wanting to reply, fix, show off that we know the right advice, tell our story, which the person we are listening to doesn’t want to hear. They want us to listen and understand them.

Listening is not a pause for us to prepare our next sentence, it is a space to hear and without judgement be fully aware of the other person’s words and to attempt to understand them.