Tag: Hope

What might have been

Posted on by philipdodson

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Life is full of them, what might have been.

We have all sat and looked at choices we’ve made in life and thought what if I had chosen the other option, the other path, to say something different, to not leave that job or person.

We can often allow this to weigh us down with regret. It can then affect our future decision taking as we fear repeating bad choices.

Well, no one knows in advance that they are making a bad choice, otherwise, we’d be unlikely to do it. Additionally, there are no bad choices.

We focus on what might have been, as in something we don’t have. We could instead focus on what we do have. The grass is rarely greener, it is just a different shade and we can not have every outcome. The colour of the grass is how we choose to look at it and we can see it however we choose to.

So be positive about the choice you did make and if it turns out not to be the outcome you wanted, then choose a different path, learn and move forward. There is no gain in regretting choices as time machines have yet to be invented.

If we could go back, we would make the same choice as we wouldn’t know the outcome of that choice. We can only make choices on our experiences to that point in life and the current mindset that we had when we choose.

So perhaps it is better to say with a spring in our steps ‘look what has happened’ instead of what might have been. Even if it is a bad outcome, nothing is forever, change it and move on. It is all part of a magical journey and if we could make choices without risk and with total certainty, then life would be dull.

Being naked is the new safe

Posted on by philipdodson

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It is interesting that once you ‘let the cat out of the bag’, once you make a public statement, then you run the risk of being ridiculed and you risk losing your credibility. But that’s fine, as that is where we all need to be. It is the brave first step into the world of doing something different.

Those who choose that option have dared to be different, dared to break free from the shackles.

We need to be driven to a new area of ‘safety’, and that new ‘safe’ zone is one where there is constant risk. We need to feel naked and vulnerable. Risk is what drives us to create, to be inspirational, to stand up and be counted. It leads to us choosing ourselves, instead of constantly waiting to be picked in the lottery of life by others.

Let’s get on the ‘roulette wheel’ and risk a few spins, risky is the new safe.

In today’s totally homogenised, standardised, mechanised, industrialised, sterile, controlled and numb world, the only way to be successful is to break free of the status quo, become a heretic, think and do different, create your own art and be yourself.

It means becoming totally vulnerable, becoming naked. This will enable us to build real connection with others who share our inspiration. In the post industrialised world that we now enter, the new crafts people will be the person who dares to be different, and get naked and exposed to the world with their new ideas.

Let’s liberate ourselves from this sterile industrialised world.