Tag: Habits

A comfort in holding on

Posted on by philipdodson

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Liberating ourselves from past behaviours is sometimes sabotaged.

We may think that we have decided to change and form new habits.

Sometimes we explain to ourselves that lapses in behaviour are to do with it taking a long time to change a habit. This is certainly true of habits that we have had for a lifetime that we are trying to alter.

However, sometimes there is a subconscious comfort in remaining as we were, particularly if the habit is related to a person or perhaps our childhood.

Once you realise what triggers a particularly habitual behaviour that you are trying to change, get really curious to see if this behaviour has a comfort zone from the past.

Comfort zones are nearly always uncomfortable and safety is riskier than change. Staying stuck with a habit is in the long-term more painful than the change.

As I blogged only recently, hard things end up being easy longer-term and easy is always painful, like holding on for ‘comfort’.

Addiction

Posted on by philipdodson

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We live in a world where nearly all of us have an addiction of some sort.

I am not talking about the usual things when we think of addiction, such as alcohol, drugs or food. Those are the obvious ones that society uses to easily judge others with, as they race to update their Facebook status about how terrible these kind of people are.

We might be addicted to checking if we have any new message notifications, likes, follows or comments.

We might be addicted to YouTube, Pokemon, our smartphones or many other compulsive habits that we all have.

This addictive behaviour is a reflection of the judgemental, fear, scarcity and shaming society that we have created, where most are craving worthiness or hiding from the scarring effects of a society such as that.

If only we could remove the correlation between achievement, what we have done, what we have, where we live, who we know and many other things and worthiness as a person.

We are born good enough and will remain so throughout our lives regardless.

We need to be unconditional with each other and unexpectant.

People who feel worthy do not need to hide or soothe their souls with addiction.

We can all help build a society as one human race that feels worthy.