It’s insane

We have huge potential to do amazing things and yet we waste that potential trapping ourselves in our mind, where we simply re-live the past or act out the future, mapped against a self-image that the mind has created and will protect at all costs from being ‘destroyed’.

If we stop an analyse what our mind is doing sub-consciously on a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, in fact, a lifetime basis, we’d realise the insanity of it all.

We are all insane to inflict emotional pain, and the resulting physical pain, upon ourselves almost continuously throughout our lives. If we are conscious, no one would do it to themselves. Why would we inflict any pain emotional or physical on ourselves?

It’s madness.

What if we just did in the now, be in the now, and stopped the analysis? What if we just consciously lived our lives moment by moment?

What could we achieve? How much better would we feel? Could we live free, without problems that we continually imagine in our minds?

Imagine a world free from this insanity.

Going back to the same pain

When we realise that relationships with others are toxic for us there is always a period where we keep going back for the same pain because of fear of the other person’s reaction.

We want to see the best in others especially friends and even more so family, which is good.

We do not want to admit to ourselves that time spent with them always leaves us feeling bad afterwards.

We perhaps blame ourselves or say ‘I need to be more patient’ or ‘I need to be more understanding’.

However, there comes a point, when we’ve set boundaries, explained to the other person how they make us feel, when patience and understanding will only lead to the pain continuing.

We have to let go and step away and respect ourselves. Simply by doing this it allows the pain the other person causes to subside, it often gives the other person time for reflection and hopefully change.

Ultimately we have to care for and respect ourselves.

Don’t keep going back for more pain for the sake of the other person. We do not need to accept toxic people.