Tag: Criticism

Looking for the worst

Posted on by philipdodson

We look for the worst in others by default and then wonder why we feel insecure? We judge others, when in fact, it is a judgement of ourselves.

Perhaps our collective and individual self-confidence would be hugely improved if we only looked for the good in others and accept what is and people for what they are? We may communicate and get on so much better.

Then we might only look for the best in ourselves too and feel better.

It is all a choice, but surely better to look for the good in others and ourselves.

I am a smarty pants

Posted on by philipdodson

When others mess up or try something risky or new, we often sit there and reassure ourselves that would never happen to us, we’d never make such mistakes, how didn’t they now that would happen, sometimes even laughing at them and thinking or even saying things like ‘who could be that stupid’.

It is not our judgements of what others can or can’t do or what they should know that will make a difference, it is what we are prepared to do ourselves that really counts.

It’s easy to be smarty pants as the observer but much braver as the doer to risk ridicule and failure. It is hard to step into the ring and face down the critics.

But the rewards of showing up are so much better than observing others.