When others mess up or try something risky or new, we often sit there and reassure ourselves that would never happen to us, we’d never make such mistakes, how didn’t they now that would happen, sometimes even laughing at them and thinking or even saying things like ‘who could be that stupid’.
It is not our judgements of what others can or can’t do or what they should know that will make a difference, it is what we are prepared to do ourselves that really counts.
It’s easy to be smarty pants as the observer but much braver as the doer to risk ridicule and failure. It is hard to step into the ring and face down the critics.
But the rewards of showing up are so much better than observing others.
We are all under a huge constant pressure to be amazing, perfect, super human, great at everything, constantly doing, earning more, buying more, bigger, better…we need to be a doer, a go-getter…
We are all the same, we are probably good at one or two things, no human can be great at everything. To be good at anything takes time, practice, commitment and pain, it’s not something that you fast track from reading a ‘how to be a winner at everything’ book.
The things we really value are not related to achieving, money or stuff. They are things like people, adventures, having a laugh and so on.
It’s also not about what others are doing and measuring ourselves against them. We need to set our metrics by our own personal values and move thing else.
Once we accept we’re ordinary, like everyone else on the planet then we are no longer under pressure and life is so much better.
No one does well under pressure despite the myth of such fed to us by the machine that keeps us slaves to meaningless deadlines. Keep running round and round the hamster wheel.
From this place of peace and acceptance we can then focus on the things that matter and live a purposeful life getting even better at one or two things we love doing.
Our worth is not determined by a meaningless pursuit of happiness that only comes when we reach this nirvana of being fucking great at everything. We never reach it and who hell wants to?