Stop searching

Stop searching the world for what you may have done wrong, for what you may have failed at, for what you could have done better, or for any other shortcomings.

You will always find what you are looking for in others criticism or reactions or words.

Stop seeking permission, stop seeking validation, stop caring what others may think, be true to yourself and your values, set and respect boundaries of what is and isn’t acceptable.

Start belonging to yourself, stop searching to fit-in.

Look instead for connection with humanity through generosity, kindness, empathy, love, compassion.

As Brene Brown says ‘hold hands with strangers’ and experience collective joy and take our share of collective pain.

Give ourselves a break

Often we try too hard to be the perfect manager, the perfect partner, the perfect parent, the perfect citizen…

We sort ourselves from others based on judgements or comparisons. We strive to be better and not make any mistakes. We cut ourselves no slack.

We all need to relax a little, take life a little less seriously, laugh more, smile more, and most of all, be kind to ourselves. Realise that it is about the momentum of change or the overall behaviour, not a rigid unrelenting check on ourselves and how we measure up to the often unrealistic expectations we set on ourselves.

Let’s give us a break.