Tag: change

Victim or punisher

Posted on by philipdodson

I’ve been both at times. In fact, everyone of us has dabbled at victimhood and punisher. Actually, many seem to switch between the two.

This behaviour keeps us stuck, stuck with judgemental lens on, not necessarily of just other people but more often of ourselves. It keeps fuelling that victim feeling and need to punish others.

It also keeps us from any self-awareness and stops us being truly accountable for our own behaviour.

The only way to stop this cycle is to accept responsibility for what we do, take off the judgemental lens and replace with a lens where the aim is to learn how we can understand others even better and how we can think differently to lead to a different outcome.

The same thinking and behaviour always gets the same results. If we want to move out the pit of victimhood and stop punishing ourselves and others then we have to focus on learning and accountability.

If art was like the world

Posted on by philipdodson

If art was like the world all the paintings would either black or white.

Even if there were different colours on the palette, no one would mix them.

Our world has become completely polarised, with us or against us, agree or disagree, yes or no, in or out.

Whatever happened to people being friends with someone who had different views, we all live in our bubbles.

The world needs to be like art, a beauty of blended colours and diversity.

We need to be able to be close to people who may not see the world as we do.

Real change comes from being able to listen and compromise. Then having a connection and trust with people who are different in order to inspire or influence them to a different perspective and that does not come by sticking our fingers in our ears and blocking out anyone who has a different voice.

Staying in our hate fuelled bubbles only leads to art of one colour.

Multi-coloured art comes from being open to differences and willing to explore something that we may not initially be comfortable with.